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Funeral Music: Play What You Love

The music for funerals at funeral homes in Owego, NY is one of the most personalized choices we make for the funeral services of our loved ones – or even for ourselves, if we’re planning our own funeral services.

There are many songs, in every conceivable musical genre, that speak about death, loss, grief, and the hope for a better place and a better day. Any of those are excellent selections for a funeral service and many people go that route when they are choosing music for funeral service.

But some people don’t. There are songs in our lives and in the lives of our deceased loved ones that have nothing to do with death at all, but they carry the power of memories, love, and relationships. And those may be the songs we choose to play at our loved ones – or at our own – funerals.

A young Olathe, KS mother’s second child was stillborn. It was 1978. A group named Kansas had song on the charts at the same time. It was called “Dust in the Wind.” The grieving mother and father played that song as part of their daughter’s funeral service. When the mother died as a result of a medical emergency in December 2018, her four remaining children played the same song at her memorial service.

There was a daughter who took care of her mother for the last years of her life. The mother had congestive heart failure, vascular dementia, Lewy Body dementia, and Alzheimer’s disease. In spite of all these illnesses, she retained her love of music. So, the daughter played music in the house all the time. She knew her mother’s favorite music, which included bluegrass and country, and made sure that was prominent in the mix of sounds that filled their home.

A few months before her mother’s death, the daughter played a song that brought a smile and a twinkle in the eyes to her mother’s face. Knowing how much her mother loved to dance as well, the daughter asked her if she wanted to dance. The mother nodded yes. They danced, the daughter holding tightly to her mother so she wouldn’t fall.

Remembering that day, the daughter chose the same song, “Ashokan Farewell,” as the piece of music that was played at her mother’s funeral service. No one else but the daughter knew why that song was played, but it was comforting to the daughter.

A son watched his father grow old and frail. His father always told his son that he wasn’t afraid of death and he’d quote Hebrews 9:27, saying, “it is appointed unto men once to die.” When the son made arrangements for his father’s funeral service, he knew that there was only one appropriate song for his father. The rest of the mourners, including the immediate family, were a bit taken aback as they heard the urgent opening guitar riffs of the song the son had selected, but those who knew the father well appreciated the son’s nod to his father with Blue Oyster Cult’s “Don’t Fear the Reaper.”

For more ideas about funeral music at funeral homes in Owego, NY, our sympathetic and experienced staff at Roberts Funeral Home is available to help. You can come to our funeral home at 279 Main St., Wellsburg, NY 14894, or you can contact us today at (607) 734-7811.