If you have never attended a funeral in a West Elmira, NY funeral homes before, you might be nervous when you get invited to one. You know people will be sad and grieving and you will have to be sensitive to them. It’s not always a comfortable experience, but if you want to honor the person who passed on and be there for the family, attendance is a good idea. While there are no set, hard and fast rules, there are a few elements you will want to follow to feel more at least with the process.
What To Wear
The first thing you will consider is what you should wear to the funeral home for the service. The traditional color of choice is black, but there is no requirement for that. Try to wear something in a more muted color and avoid bright patterns and anything that could be a distraction. Look for something on the conservative side. If you feel you could wear the outfit to church, it’ might be a good fit for the funeral home as well.
Take Care With Phones
It seems wherever we go these days, there are ringing and buzzing cell phones. When you enter the funeral home, make sure your phone is set on silent. Better yet, leave it in the car completely. Even phones on vibrate still make noise and can be a distraction. This is a time to focus on the person who passed on and their family members and nothing else. If your phone goes off, you’ll be embarrassed and seen as rude and disruptive.
A Gift For The Grieving
Everyone wants to do something for the family in grief to make them feel better or remind them they are there for them. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or elaborate. They can be simple things like flowers, a card with a heartfelt note, a cooked meal, a donation to a charity in their loved one’s name or other items. The thought is what counts in these cases.
Keep Disruptions Minimal
If you have a cough, but really want to attend the service at the funeral home, it’s perfectly fine. Just sit near the back so if you have a coughing fit you can quickly duck out. IF you have children you want to bring, that’s okay too. Dress them appropriately and again, sit near the back so if they start to fuss, you can get out fast, so you aren’t disrupting anyone else in their time of grief.
Attending a funeral may not be something you do on a daily basis, but when you visit a West Elmira, NY funeral homes for a service, there’s no need to be more worried over it than necessary. If you have more questions about what to wear or what to bring, contact the professionals at Roberts Funeral Home by calling (607) 734-7811. We’re located at 279 Main St., Wellsburg, NY 14894 and we’re here to help families through hard times.